You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvellous- how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. -Psalm 139:13-16 NLT
We often hear about labels being put on others. We are told we shouldn’t call people names and put them down. What about labels we put on ourselves?
Labels can be painful or helpful. I have used labels since my teen years when I was beginning to figure out who I was a person.
One of the first labels I placed on myself, was unwanted. I was unwanted by my original parents so a foster family took me in. Even though they wanted me, I couldn’t shake the label of unwanted. I then had the label of rejection. I felt rejected often because of my childhood.
As I grew older and went to college, I played around and didn’t go to classes. Therefore, I failed after my first year. Guess what label I used then.
You’re right. Failure. And then afterwards, every time I made a mistake, I’d call myself a failure. You and I can only guess how many times I used this label.
I have also used labels such as fat (which I know I’m overweight due to medicine and inactivity, but this doesn’t help in arguments), stupid, no good, rubbish mum, etcetera. The most difficult label to stop saying over myself since I became ill is the word “lazy.” I have called myself this often because I can’t work, cook, help around the house with cleaning, or do things with my friends and family. And yet, once again, unwanted and rejection labels rear their ugly heads as well as I have lost many so-called friends since being ill.
I was taught to work hard and put on a happy face. How well I performed in ministry was key. I always felt I could never measure up to everyone else.
I have struggled with self-loathing for a long time. However, since being chronically ill, God has begun healing my soul from this wretched destruction.
However, being homebound, God has taught me that I am a human being, not a human doing. God has been showing me how much he loves me. I knew deep down he did, but now I am experiencing his love. He’s not upset because I can’t do things. In fact, because I have more time “to be” in his presence, I am understanding more about his love.
God loves me. He loves you. He sees the ache in our hearts to be loved and accepted. He longs for us to see ourselves as he does. We are beautiful and wonderful in his eyes.
The first person, after Christ, that needs to love us is ourselves. We are too quick to condemn. We easily find fault when things go wrong.
W need to see ourselves as God does so we can love ourselves. But in order to do this, we need to confess the labels we have spoken over us. We need to give him each personally named label. No matter what they are. Give them to Jesus. Ask him to remove them. Then ask God to replace them with his labels of truth.
I am still learning to speak over myself who I am in Christ. It is not easy, especially when we put ourselves down or struggle with depression, etc. However, I have noticed the more I love myself, the more I can love my family and others.
Here are God’s labels over us….
I’M FORGIVEN! (Colossians 2:13)
I’M LOVED! (John 15:9)
I’M VIRTUOUS! (Proverbs 31:10)
I’M PLEASANT! (Proverbs 3:17)
I’M GIFTED! (1 Corinthians 7:7)
I’M PREDESTINED (Ephesians 1:5)
I’M REDEEMED (1 Peter 1:18-19)
I’M BLESSED (Galatians 3:9)
I’M SPIRITUALLY BLESSED (Ephesians 1:3)
I’M RIGHTEOUS (Romans 5:19)
I’M CHOSEN! (Ephesians 1:4)
I’M WONDERFULLY MADE (Psalms 139:14)
I’M A CONQUEROR (Romans 8:37)
I’M HONOURED (Proverbs 3:16)
I’M STRONG (1 Corinthians 4:10)
I’M GOD’S SON/ DAUGHTER (2 Corinthians 6:18)
Prayer: Father, I am fearfully and wonderfully made by your hands who knitted me in my mother’s womb. In the midst of life, I have tried to fit in the world and have forgotten who I am in Christ. I am sorry for putting you down when I put labels on myself which aren’t true. I lay these false labels _________________, _______________________, _____________________, _______________, and ______________________________, at your feet. Please clothe me with your righteousness and truth. Help me to declare over myself your labels of who you say I am. In Jesus name, Amen.